Self Confidence Building For Beginners

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Lack of self-confidence? STOP!

Here’s the thing. If you’re half intelligent (which you are. In fact, as a reader of this blog I’d say you fall into the upper 95th percentile of intelligent folk the world over) then you’re going to be *just* a little bit judgmental.

You’re a little bit judgmental because intelligent people like you have opinions.

Some of your opinions are favorable. Some of them are even gushing. There are some people out there who you would lay down over shitty puddles for, just so that they don’t get their Manolo Blahniks soiled.

And then there are the other folk. The other folk who aren’t so brilliant, but perhaps think they are. The folk who talk too much, or chew too loudly, or who wear tracksuits and trainers off the sports field.

Your opinion of them isn’t so high.

And yet it’s great that this variety of opinion exists. We were born to polarize. If we all thought the same or held the same beliefs or ate the same brand of breakfast cereal then we’d all be mightily fucked and living out some kind of bland pre-processed existence without any interesting disagreements after a three martini lunch.

Therefore, working on the assumption that everybody’s got an opinion about everybody else, and also working on the assumption that your intelligence levels are just a little bit higher than everybody else’s, there’s no reason for a lack of self-confidence.

Self-confidence isn’t really a good way of describing the way you feel about yourself. At root, confidence is imprinted on us as a by-product of others’ reactions to us.

If enough people put you down enough times, then eventually they will become redundant, because you’ll be doing a pretty good job of putting yourself down.

Or perhaps you’re doing a good job of putting yourself down without the intervention of other people. Perhaps you think you know what others are thinking. You say – “Gee, since my stroke three years ago I’m half the man used to be. I might as well just curl up in a little ball and ignore the world, because the world is ignoring me.”

But you’d be wrong. You don’t know what others are thinking.

Your SELF confidence is proportional to how you believe others see you.

So if you’re suffering from a lack of self-confidence, or low self-esteem, you need to remember the following:

1. You haven’t got a clue what other people are thinking. You reckon you’re a mind-reading voodoo expert, but actually, you’re not. Stop making your place on earth relative to everybody else’s.
2. You do this by referring back to the original premise of this article. Namely, that you’re more intelligent than 95% of the dickheads out there, and you can justifiably say “fuck you” to the lot of them.

Take it to extremes. The solution to a genuine lack of self-confidence is a temporary manufactured surfeit of the stuff.

You fucking rock. Tell yourself. Tell the rest of the world. And once you’re playing the same game as the rest of the retards around you, you’ll realize you can stop bluffing, because we’re all in the same boat, and we’re all a little bit shy.

But some of us are better liars.